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主持人:Damien Lu (星星) 博士

Such a pers ...

sirer (先生) :

Such a person can find belonging with other people who do not follow social norm.
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Dear Xing,
thanks for your response. you said"Such a person can find belonging with other people who do not follow social norm". I interprete as if I am a gay, I need to find a gay community, am I right? However, most gays in China get married, definitely I am not on the same page with those married gays, right? let us do some calculation, say we have 50 million homesexual in China, for gay maybe 30 million, 20 million are les, nowadays, 99.5% gay and 99.9% les get married, so for thousands of cities in China, every city will be maybe a thousand gay really not intend to marry, also maybe 90% of those gays are not truely eager for friendship/belonging/community, say they only want handsome strong guy to have sex(only one example, or such as they think gay community put stigma on them), then the number to form a community will be so so small in the same city.
I think you said "Such a person can find belonging with other people who do not follow social norm", for gays, are not truely feasible, isn't it?

Damien Lu :

There are many people who do not follow social norms, not only gays. There are many non-gay people who don't care if someone is gay. You need to broaden your horizon, instead of looking for illogical explanations.